Apologizing for something for which you are not responsible?
Last night the associate pastor (let’s call him Y) at church mentioned that when he was in mission school in Australia (he wanted to become a missionary) there was a Korean and a Filipino attending at the same time. When it came time for him to return to Japan (he’s Japanese) he was asked to give a short presentation on Japan so that the group could pray for him. In his presentation, he talked about some of the horrendous things that the Japanese soldiers did in World War II. And then, he apologized for them. Later, the Korean came up to him and asked forgiveness himself, saying that up until that point he was unable to pray for Japan because of the deep resentment he had in his heart passed on to him from his parents. After hearing Y’s apology, however, he was able to let go of those hard feelings and finally felt compassion for the people of Japan. The Filipino also said that she had heard so many negative things about the Japanese from her grandmother but she was also now able to feel compassion for the Japanese people.
It’s a nice story of forgiveness and healing, but I disagree with Y and think it was fundamentally wrong for him to apologize. Y is only in his 30’s. He had nothing to do with WWII, and neither did his parents or grandparents. WWII was more than 60 years ago. How can he apologize for something which was completely out of his control? And, if an apology is sincere, does that not entail doing something about it or at least having the desire to? I am fairly certain that Y has not made trips around South East Asia or done anything else to make penance for the actions of his ancestors’ contemporaries. I just don’t think that it is possible to apologize for actions that you have not committed yourself, much less actions that have been committed by people you are not even related to.
Some might say that some good came out of his apology, so what’s the harm, but if the Korean and the Filipino were harboring hard feelings toward the Japanese people for crimes of which they were not the victims, I think they were the ones with the problem, and they were the only ones that should have apologized. For Y to apologize almost seems to me to give legitimacy to the racist philosophies of those two individuals.
Am I wrong? Is it acceptable or even commendable to apologize for the actions of others?






Of course, I have no problem with expressing sadness over something that was done in the past. It’s backing that empathy with an apology that I don’t understand.







Well… Not sure if it’s really the same thing, but I do find myself apologizing for the actions of my children at an alarmingly frequent rate… and I can confirm that said apologies are offered with the utmost sincerity (and extreme humility).